My life with Tiara has been so difficult lately that I haven’t tried taking her for a walk in the morning for the past 5 days. Each morning I think about going and then she starts acting bad and I realize I don’t have the strength to fight her and then push her for 4 miles, so I give up and stay home.
Today I was meeting my friend for our regular walk so I was super motivated to get Tiara up and out of the house. Once I got her in the car she started kicking the dashboard and punching me. I kept thinking I knew I couldn’t drive while she was kicking because it wasn’t safe but I really needed to leave to meet my friend. I hate being late anywhere and rarely ever am. I contemplated calling my friend to cancel and I knew she would totally understand but on the other hand I really needed some exercise and a friend to vent to. I had to go.
I sat in the driveway for 5 minutes while she punched and kicked me as I tried to defend myself. I was starting to feel hopeless and then I thought “come on Tiffani, you can turn this around. You can make her stop!” At that moment I pushed away all my feelings of anger, hurt and contempt for my own child and started singing the Happy Birthday song at the top of my lungs. She instantly stopped, looked at me, smiled and started singing.
I put the car in drive, backed out of the driveway and drove to Balboa Island singing the whole way. No she wasn’t a perfect angel the rest of the day but I was able to do our walk and see my friend. Lou is home tonight so I am on a serious vacation. He is doing the bath while I am writing this and all the girls are super happy since he is home. He has the next 2 days off, yes 2 days in a row and I am thrilled.
Hopefully we will get some answers at the doctor’s today and I will update you tomorrow.
Have a great day!
xoxo tiffani
So glad Lou is home for two days now. And I am so going to try the singing when my girls are grumpy and having tantrums. Hey, it can’t hurt to try! Seriously though hope you get some answers today and sending good vibes your way!! 🙂 xoxo!!
Who knows it may work? Thanks for all the good thoughts and encouragement….
over my 30 years as a ts mom, singing has saved my life! from wheels on the bus, to where is thumbkin which becomes where is everyone who we can think of at any given moment, to amazing grace…. there’s not a song we still don’t sing! try singing instead of speaking everything one day – it’s pretty silly and very fun!
I really hope you find some answers. I can’t imagine how scary things like Dr.’s appointments must seem to Tiara. I also hope the singing continues to calm her down. I am sending prayers and lots of hugs for you and Tiara.
It’s wonderful that your husband will be home for 2 days!!!!!