Our trip to NYC is only a week and half away and my biggest concerns are Tiara will get sick before or while I am gone and Lou won’t wake up in the middle of the night when she needs something. As every family knows, Mothers are Fathers are wired completely differently.
Moms hear everything in the middle of the night and most Dads hear nothing, that is why we spend so many nights without sleep. As I have mentioned before Tiara has unusual sleep patterns to which I have adapted. Lou has adapted because I yell, scream and push him if necessary to wake him when I need help in the middle of the night. Without my prodding I don’t think he would never wake up.
This is what happened Monday night/Tuesday morning. Around 1:30 am, I woke up to Tiara itching and itching her legs. It was driving me crazy and even though her eyes were closed I knew she much be uncomfortable. I got up and put some Aquafor on her inner thighs and she stopped. Back to bed I went and within 30 minutes I noticed she was itching her vaginal area. UGH! I got up again, changed her diaper and put on her prescription ointment. That seemed to help. During neither of these events did Lou even flinch or move a muscle, even though I turned on the light and was grunting and groaning while trying to turn her side to side for the diaper change.
I finally fell back asleep only to be awakened by her saying “Dad, Dad, Dad.” He didn’t hear her, so I went over to him and said “Hey, Lou, wake up. TT wants to sleep with you, hurry and switch spots before she gets really irritated and won’t go back to bed.” Still no movement. I shake him and start to yell and he finally moves. Now I am in the twin bed and am staring over at Tiara to see if she will go back to sleep. She appears to be happy and turns on her side but not 20 minutes later she starts saying “breathing, breathing.”
I get up again and walk over to her. “Do you need your breathing treatment,TT?” “Yes, I do.”
“OK, don’t move or get out of the bed and I will go get it.” Off to the living room I go to collect the nebulizer and the vials. I go back set it up and put it on. I look over at Lou and he is dead asleep. Really, is this a joke? I get back in bed but before I put my head down I hear her say, “Hannah, Hannah.” Big breath, deep sigh and back up I get and go to the TV. I turn on the DVD and the TV and wait for Netflix to load. It feels like it is taking a lifetime, but finally I get Hannah Montana on. By this time it is 4:30 am and I am exhausted and grumpy. As I lay down, my bedroom door opens, and in walks Trinity. “Mom, I heard a loud noise and now I’m scared, can I sleep with you.”
At this point I felt like screaming, NO, GET OUT, EVERYONE GET THE HECK OUT, but I didn’t. Sure hon, lay down. As we both try to squish in the bed, I realize I will never be able to sleep with the show on and Trinity in my bed so I look at Tiara and see she is asleep. Her eyes are closed but I contemplated whether or not to turn off the show. There is a big chance that the second I turn it off she will wake up but because I am an idiot and was too tired to think straight, I turned it off. Yep, you know what happened next.
Her eyes flew open and she started saying “Hannah, Hannah.” I looked at Trinity who was staring at me with huge open eyes and I said, “Go to your room and I will fix this and then come sleep with you.” She went back to her room and I waited for Netflix to load again while I tried to remain calm. Once I was done, I looked at Lou who was still sleeping and said, “Hey, I am going to sleep with Trinity, you are in charge of Tiara.” At this point it was 4:45am.T
Trinity and I finally fell asleep and I woke up with a startle when I looked over and saw it was 7:30am. I screamed and jumped up, since Trinity was supposed to leave for school at that exact moment. I naturally wake up at 6:30 every morning but I always set my alarm for 7am in case I have a bad night and over sleep. I ran in my room and woke up Lou. “Did my alarm do off?” “Yeah, I turned it off.”
What the Fu**? You turned off my alarm and didn’t even bother to let me know?” I rushed out to the kitchen to make the coffee and see chocolate and granola bars all over the floor. I then see open bottles of sparkle water and crackers everywhere. “What happened in here?” I run into the bedroom and ask Lou what happened and he said, “Oh, I was sleeping and Tiara walked in and was covered in Chocolate. I guess she got up and got into the cabinet while I was sleeping.”
I was flabbergasted, mad and super irritated. WOW! I then said, “I don’t even know what to say Lou, except she better be alive when I get home from New York!”
xoxo tiffani
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Chantelle says
LOL…He sleeps so soundly BECAUSE he knows you are there. You are Super Mom…you can handle it …you don’t need him getting in your way.
When Lou is on his own…He will be alert and on the ball!!! He will know you are 3000 miles away…
Have a blast on your trip….Stay healthy and know Lou will get his chance to be SUPER DAD!
<3
tiffani goff says
Hope you are right!
Mikela Nolan says
Okay, yes, this is concerning. Argh!
jennifer's mom says
Good lord girl! you’re gonna need a “rent a mommy”!! Do you get any formal respite? because this would be a perfect time to let Tiara stay with a respite provider. I know it’s hard, but sometimes the greatest gift we can give our kids is letting someone else care for them so we can get a break. Your Tiara is more verbal than my Jennifer (who is now 28), but I so sympathize with the sleeping daddy. We have one of those too – there were many a night that he’d lay down with her to try to get her to sleep so I could get some work done, and within 15 minutes she would come walking out of her room looking for me and he’d be sound asleep. Hang in there and enjoy your trip – you deserve it!! And he’ll probably do just fine (dang it!)
tiffani goff says
I used to have formal respite but the agency could never found someone for us. I thought it was still in place and I called last week to ask for some help and apparently our contract wasn’t renewed by Regional Center, so I am working on it. I think she will be ok, maybe she will be on her best behavior since I won’t be around. Let’s hope!
Jamie@SouthMainMuse says
Holy cow. What a night. And yes, I would be a little worried. Maybe he could lock the bedroom door so she won’t get out and wander around. I’m sure everything will be find and you can’t worry. Well, going to New York. That sounds awesome.
Rorie Kaplan says
It is going to be fine. Lou will probably be some place in the middle of super Mom and totally asleep Dad. Tiara will probably do a few things, like eat chocolate in the night and make some messes, that you would never let her do. However, she will be alive when you get home. You, Trinity and Tabitha will have a fabulous time and Lou and Tiara will be no worse for the wear. In fact it will probably be good for everyone.
xoxoRorie
Diana @ NannyToMommy says
Moms and Dads definitely are wired differently…is all I can say…
I remember the first time my husband said our daughter ‘slept through the night’, she was six weeks old. Just know you aren’t alone.
karen says
I’m thinking this would be a good time for tag team parenting…bring in a loving family member to fill in where they are good and then lou can fill in where he is good. TT will live through this, but any extra insurance to make sure you and the girls have a super time without worry is probably worth it