After my post last week, “why isn’t anyone helping me” I received many different comments and words of support from readers, but so did other members of my family. People in our community contacted my family members to check on me. Friends contacted friends all with worry about me.
Through this process, I have been told that my blog has become very hurtful to some of the people in my life. People I have loved my entire life. It is one thing to see my life on a daily basis and worry about me but then another to have people coming up to them on the street asking: “Is everything ok with Tiffani, are you worried Tiara is going to kill her?” That worry has been brought up by several people in the past 4 days and it is beyond overwhelming for a few people in my life.
As much as I have loved sharing my life, I can’t continue to post if I am seriously hurting relationships that I care about.
Lou has told me to continue blogging but just don’t write anything which would upset anyone. Well, I can’t do that, it’s just not who I am. I tell the truth whether it makes people feel good, bad or horrible and if I can’t talk about what really is going on in my life, what is the point? Just be fake and pretend everything is great when it sucks? No, I can’t do that.
So as much as I look forward to writing each day and hearing from my readers, it is time for me to say good-bye.
Thank you for stopping by each day and sharing in my life. Just know I will probably miss you more than you will miss me.
Oh and Tiara turned 15 this weekend so check out a few of these cute photos Trinity took at the party.
I will keep the site up for a while as I know it can still be beneficial to newly diagnosed TSC families and I need time to figure out what to do with everything I have written.
Well, the good news is maybe this will force me to write that book everyone is always telling me to write.
xoxo tiffani
Tiffani, I totally understand your decision, but I will truly miss you on here terribly. I have grown to very much not only to read your blog, but your friendship here, too. Totally thinking of you though and like I said I truly respect your decision. If you write that book, I will definitely read it. Thinking of you and sending hugs your way 🙂 xoxo!!
Thanks Janine, I can still visit you everyday! xoxo
Oh Tiffani, I understand and support your decision to step back from your blog. I want to thank you for sharing your family with us.
You are kind to respect their wishes.
Let them all know….everyone’s concerns come from a place of love and caring not trying to be hurtful.
We do worry about ALL of you. We also worry about you driving on the road with someone who can affect your driving skills. You share that road with all of us…and our kids.
I wish you and your beautiful family all the best. Keep that writers spirit going.
Love and hugs,
Chantelle
Thank you Chantelle for all the kind words and support you have given to our family since I started the blog. Will still see you on facebook, though! xoxo
I will miss your blog!! I looked forward to reading it everyday and either laughing or crying with you. I fully understand your decision but you will be missed.
Thanks Judy! I have been crying all morning because I am really devastated about not writing my blog anymore…. xoxo
You must make the decision to do what’s right for you and your family and I’m sure that your readers understand completely. It seems that writing is an outlet for you so I think you should continue to at least journal. If I’m in the OC in December I will look you up. Take care! You will be missed!!! Big hugs from Texas, Stacie xo
Please look me up Stacie, I would love to see you! xoxo
I will greatly miss you & your blogg. I wish there was some way to be able to keep in touch. You are such a insperation to so many of us! I enjoy you so much. Your family is wonderful, & I agree you are very honest. As we all can’t or do not express our emotions you tell it just like it is! Thinking of you & your family. Big Hugs!
We will keep in touch via Facebook and the TSC page. Working on a way to continue writing for my TSC community. xoxo
Tiffani: I understand your decision, but I have to say that I will miss reading your blog everyday. I feel it’s a good outlet for you to express your feelings and I hope that you will keep a log or write a book as a new outlet. I wish the best for your family, and if you ever do write a book, please post it so we can catch up on your journeys. Thank you for being such an open, honest person and sharing your life with us. You will be missed, and you will be thought of. You are an inspiration to all, especially those of us in the TS family.
Mary-Ellen, from Agawam, MA
Totally understand your feelings but just take a breather. Would hate to lose a blog that s ” genuine” and helps so many. Hugs
Tiffani, I think it is wrong for the family members to demand you stop blogging. It is clearly therapeutic for you, and it is unfair that these people put their sense of well being before yours. I understand that you want everyone to be happy and there be piece among the family, but I hope you will find something else to do in the brief moments of calm that helps you through the day. It was a pleasure to get to know your family!
TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM!!!! 1,000 %!!!! Will miss your posts! From one care giver to another, just remember to take time for yourself – way easier said than done I know – because if you don’t JUST WHO will take care of everything!!! 🙂 xo PS everything will be OK!
Hi Tiffani.
Due to me working third on keeping my crazy family in tact, I cannot be a daily reader, but every time I read your blog, I was moved. I so admire your conviction, hard work, passion, care, and love you put into your life, family and friends. I had no idea of how difficult your journey has been with Tiara. I will continue to keep you all in my prayers and I wish you the best in life. You are a good soul. xoMarena
I too am sorry that you will not be posting. The first thing I look at in the morning is your blog. I then thank God for all my blessings and say a prayer for all of you. I hope you find a way to keep us in the loop. I never felt that anything you said was derogatory towards your family. Blessings to all of you.
Karen
Tiffani, what a difficult decision I know this was for you to make. I too will miss reading your blog daily, sometimes laughing and others crying. You are an amazing Mom! You and your family deal daily with things some people never experience and you do it with grace, humor and heart.
You will be missed,
Rorie
Sorry to hear that. Thanks for having shared bits of your life via your blog… I hope the book endeavor goes well for you! 🙂
Oh Tiffani, this makes me so sad. I hope you’ll at least post some pictures and neutral updates once in a while. I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you and your family. Hugs and prayers will continue from me to you!
I was so sad to read this. I do read your blog every day and I would really miss it, though I understand your reasons. I think the last comment from Sylvia is a good idea! Post some pictures and neutral updates once in a while. If you do start on your book, let me know… I’d be happy to help with editing or anything you need 🙂
Tiffani, I am very sad to hear that you are not going to write about your experiences anymore with TT and your daily up’s and down’s with TSC. You are an inspiration to all Mother’s. I really feel that your blog is good therapy for us and you, especially you. Although you have support, you are battling these behavior’s by yourself. I understand that you don’t want to hurt loved one’s but you also need to think of your own sanity and release your stress in one way or another. We Love you and are here for you Always.
i really dont want to see you go. this has made me realize im not the only one out there that feels totally overwhelmed on days. some days are great and others are days of hell. but you are real and so is your family. and this really happens. like for instance i have not only dealt with family issues last week with an older child that i dont always have the time i would like to have with. then this past weekend my lil tsc girl has had a fever. trip to dr confirmed….strep throat. so was outa work all last week without pay,due to lack of work, now miss 2 days this week. as a single mom i am over the freaking top overwhelmed right now. hugs to you and your family, amy
Ahhhhh Tiffani,
This has my head spinning, trying to think of what this is truly about (you know me, always looking deeper). Of course, I’m like all your readers- totally bummed. At first I thought, “Who cares about the family members! They have some humility to learn here, they can support you to process this through the blog even if it is uncomfortable for them. Maybe they have something to learn through fielding the comments of others that are concerned for you.”
But then, I cooled down, and ask myself to look further and think more on this. And I remembered what a supportive and loving family you have. And that surely, there has to be a bigger purpose for this happening (their reactions). If we let go of controlling the outcome totally, and ask God to show us the way, maybe he is showing you the way to your book, or something else that is your higher calling. I know the WWTD didn’t fly on your blog, but that it fulfilled something for you and allowed you to use your gifts. Maybe this whole situation is leading you to your next highest calling somehow…. hmmmmmm. I will keep thinking and praying on this, and I know you will too.
You have a lot of good coming to you Tiffani, because of all the love and care you bring to this world. Now, try to step back (when you are feeling better) and brainstorm how to take your gift of sharing this story and helping others to the next level, in a way that supports you AND your family too. At the same time, make sure you aren’t protecting other people’s feelings in a way that negatively impacts you. In the end, you have to do what best for you, Lou, and your 3 girls FIRSt.
I will miss you
xoxo
M
Tiffani,
I will miss your blog I read it everyday and have enjoyed learning about all the ups and downs in your life. I think a book is a great idea. But knowing that family comes first I agree with your decision. I hope to see a little visit from you every once in a while.
Char
Oh dear. I’m quite sad. Not that I don’t understand — believe me I do. But I will miss hearing from you. Do start to write your book. And maybe one day after you pull away from blogging a new focus will hit you. All the talent that you have with decorating and interior design. Or maybe not. And that’s okay too. All I can say is I truly feel like you are a friend. I’ll miss you and please keep in touch with your readers every now and then. Hug —–
“Parting is such sweet sorrow that I shall say goodnight till it be morrow.” William Shakespeare. I too, like so many others, will be sad to see your blog go. Families! Love them, disagree with them and yes, they always have an opinion. In this case I know you never meant to hurt or harm them. I only hope that these people in the end, lift you up and help support you the way we (your loyal bloggies) have. Good luck in the future. I know you will find your way.
Thanks Darcy, not feeling lifted up and supported. Feeling very sad and depressed! Hoping to figure this whole thing out. xoxo
I have to be honest…THIS TOTALLY SUCKS!!! I do understand why you’ve made this decision but it’s going to be weird not reading your daily posts…I find myself being really disappointed when I log on and don’t see a new post from you. I truly wish you and your family all the best–I hope Tiara’s violent rages cease and that you can get some relief. Praying for y’all!
I couldn’t agree with you more, this sucks! I’m feeling pretty lost this morning and need to find a way to get back to you all. xoxox
Well for the record, if you write a book, I’ll be first in line to purchase it! Maybe make your blog posts into a book somehow…? Or pepper the book with them…?
Really hoping something works out for you! PRAYERS!!!
Thanks Courtney! Met with a friend today on book ideas so I am moving forward. Not sure what it will be like but I am excited to start it. Thanks for the prayers and love!
xoxo
Exciting stuff! Please post an update or somehow get the message out when it’s published and available for purchase! 🙂
Tiffani, plainly, I’m sad, too, and don’t want to see you go. You’ve always moved me with your blog, the ups and the downs. With the stress all of us go through on a daily basis, it felt so good to be able to let out some of this emotion. I am one who always tries to pretend I’m superwoman and that everything is fine and dandy, when we know the honest truth is it just isn’t. Your blog is refreshing and has been so therapeutic; I think, especially, for you, as well! FB is okay, but not really a great place to go into so much detail. I love that you “put it all out there!” Hope you’re feeling better, and will find a place to display your wonderful talents. If you write that book, let me know, I’ll be one of the first to buy it! Hugs!
Tiffani, I feel sad that you will not be blogging anymore, but I really do understand your reasons. There are many blogs out there where people talk about their perfect little family. I admire your honesty. It is refreshing. I know you did not write this blog to inspire others but you really have inspired me. Even when you are having your struggles it is evident how much you love your family. I hope you find the answers you are looking for to help Tiara. I wish you and your family well. Judy
Hi Tiffani,I’m so sad you have to stop writing your blog. You have really inspired me at times to be a better mother with your entertaining and honest anecdotes. It is a truly fine line we have to walk as moms and please don’t quit writing altogether
Hugs
Heather
Hi Tiff! I love your blog….and care deeply for you and your family! Praying your next “chapter” will be in your book! xoxo Leslie
I’m actually tearing. I can’t believe that I won’t get to read about your life anymore. You are one of the first ever blogs that I found and connected with. Not because I have the same situations as you but because you are one of the most honest, down to earth people I know. I love the friendship that we created and I honestly hope that we can continue some sort of communication though you won’t be blogging now. I hope you do write that book. I think it would be incredibly beneficial for so many readers. I so hope to meet you in person one day dear Tiffani! Thank you always for being a good reader of my blog, listener when I needed it most and also a confidant. Still you are the only one that knows what really went on during my couple month down turn. I will miss you but absolutely respect your decision.
Happy 15th birthday TT!! The pictures were beautiful!
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