This is very hard for me to admit but for the past few days I have actually missed my husband. I think the last time I missed him was when we were dating long distance, 23 years ago.
Ever since we have been married I have continued to “play hard to get” as he calls it. I don’t require much of his attention but I love that he is always trying to get mine. It is our game. He follows me around when he is home always trying to cop a feel and tells me no one can see and I am always telling him, “everyone can see, love.” He rubs my shoulders, my feet and tells me how pretty I am all day long. I always respond the same, “glad somebody thinks I’m pretty, but I think you are going blind, darling!”
So we are coming up on his 1 year anniversary at the new dealership and he has never been gone so much in our 21 years of marriage. Monday morning he left for work at 8am and came home at midnight. Tuesday he left at 8:30am and was home at 11:50pm. I always come out to the living room around 1am to check on him and say hello and last night he was still awake, like normal when I got up to check on him. He then said, “I have to be up at 5:30am because we have our monthly meeting.” Well, I went totally ballistic. “What the hell? You have only 4 1/2 hours to sleep! GET TO BED OMG, Lou this is not healthy for you! You can’t keep doing this!” I think I may have yelled a few more comments but you get the point. This is a pretty common scene in our home.
Lou likes to unwind after work before bed but if you get home at midnight that doesn’t leave you much time. I get so worried about him, I get really angry. I was so mad last night I started sweating, my stomach hurt and I couldn’t get back to sleep. I finally went to the couch where it is cooler, so I could try and fall back to sleep. The oxygen machine runs all night makes our room really hot, no matter how low we turn the air down, so I felt totally miserable. I need a cold room to sleep.
This morning he was getting ready to leave at 6:30am and Trinity heard his voice. She jumped out of bed, ran out of her room and jumped into his arms. “Dad, I heard you talking, don’t leave yet!” He gave her at least 10 kisses and then we heard Tiara waking up. He walked into our room all ready with his suit and tie and leaned over to give her the same amount of kisses. I got my kiss and then he was gone for the day. It was at that moment I realized I really missed him. I hate him being gone all the time and no amount of money is worth him being gone this much.
I have been racking my brain to try and figure out a way to make our finances work without him working 16 hour days, but he doesn’t want to let this opportunity pass him by. He is committed to making this job work. I totally support that commitment but I hate him being gone so much. I know some women are happy their husbands are always gone working because they don’t really like them much anymore. I still really like my hubby even after all this time. go figure?
Have a wonderful day and I hope you love you hubby as much as I do!
xoxo tiffani
Oh Tiffani, I totally felt for you and I have those types of feelings, too when my husband works a lot of hours. After all this time, I still love my husband so much and funny mine is similar also to yours in the still chasing after me all these years later. And I too secretly love it!! xoxo 🙂
I still like mine too Tiff! Even after 10 days together 24/7 on vacation! That’s one of the reasons why we are friends I think.. Miss you! Xoxo
I miss you too, looks like you are having the time of your life! xoxo
How sweet! I’m lucky enough to work with my husband in his wellness clinic but I can definitely understand wanting to help lighten the load.
I set a goal this year to get us debt-free and I’m on a mission. I might have a solution for you. Send me your email and I’ll give you a bit of info mari_inthesky@yahoo.com
You never know…maybe you can retire your husband and be debt-free!
The car biz is terrible. Holidays, weekends and nights. My husband was in the car biz for nearly 20 years. He missed the family dinners. He missed the weddings, birthdays and vacations. Work was work and you have to be there all the time. Especially in management.
Kevin worked at nearby dealerships and super far away ones…all the same.. They talk all their time and then take some more.
I loved it when he worked closer to home so I could bring the family to him. Lunches and dinners. Even bring a bbq for the whole sales staff. Anything to keep us all connected.
Hang in there Tiff! But the hours will never change.
You more than anyone understands as your husband was in the business and I remember your father owned dealerships. I wish he worked closer because bringing the family to him is a great idea. xoxo
Sounds like he is a great husband and father. I hope his 16 hour days are shortened soon… that wouldn’t be easy for any of you!
Hey Tiff, If you were my wife I’d chase you around trying to cop a feel too 🙂
There is nothing better than being in true love <3 I'm lucky to know it and have it and so are you! Just keep telling yourself he's putting in these long insane hours now to make sure your future is the best it can possibly be! There's nothing sexier than a man with integrity and charm 🙂 No wonder why you miss him…
I love you guys
Leanne
I love that you love him so much. You love your husband – novel concept, eh? But it’s actually not that common anymore, sadly. That’s really wonderful. You have a partner in crime and a committed, loving husband who’s clearly in love with you too.
Don’t be angry with him though. I’m sure he feels guilty enough and misses you and the girls more than you imagine – never mind the pressure of making his business venture work.
Maybe some day the business will generate enough revenue to run itself with less of his involvement. For now, he needs to be there. Admire his work ethic and commitment to his family. He’s a gem!